Tuesday, October 4, 2016

Painting Over, Overwhelm

I met with a friend today and she said to me, "I don't know how you do it!  You have so much going on in your life, how do you juggle so many things and be successful?"

My immediate response was to make a joke about my level of overwhelm, and we laughed together in understanding as only two mothers who also happen to be entrepreneurs can do.  Or, perhaps we were commiserating?! Who knows!  But later, upon reflection, I analyzed how do I get what I get done, and why haven't I had a nervous breakdown yet??

I lead a very busy life--hence, why I haven't blogged in a while.  My daughter just recently turned a year old.  I bought a fixer-upper house at the end of February that I have been fixing one aspect after the next.  I run two businesses. And, my relationship with my daughters father ended shortly after she was born, so I'm doing this unsupported by a partner. Phew... it's been a lot.  When I focus on the parts, I start feeling an anxiety rise in my stomach and throat.  I start feeling the restriction and resistance, and I know that easily I could become paralyzed with the dis-ease of overwhelm.

I think at one time or another, we can all relate to this feeling.  I've worked frequently through the years with people who live in this state for a long period of time.  It's gnarly.  It's awful.  And, it's terribly limiting.

Thankfully, with years of experience, I have developed some strategies that are very helpful.  If you are experiencing overwhelm, give these a try.... I use them all the time and the only time I feel overwhelmed these days are when a friend points out how challenging my life is and I think about the details!

Life is Like a Painting

1.  Think BIG PICTURE.  What do you want to create? Write down the end result that you want to accomplish. This step is like painting the backdrop on the canvas.  In my life, the big picture is seeing myself and my kids smiling and happy in a nice, comfortable home.

2.  What THEMES need to happen to make the big picture come to life? The different aspects of the picture need a place to be developed.  Where will those themes be located on your life's canvas? In a painting, it's like deciding where the mountain will go, where the trees may be, if there is a river that will run through the scene.  An artist will often pencil in the ideas of what will go roughly where. You will write down the different themes.  In my life, the themes are my daughters care, my son's care, my house projects (each one a different theme, be it construction or making dinner), my alternative therapy business, my rental business, my relationships with various people, my self-care, and the random stuff.

3.  What DETAILS need attention?  Ask yourself, can I delegate these details? If yes, do just that. If no, prioritize what needs to happen first, second, third, etc... to fill in the themes, which make the big picture come to life.  In a painting, this is the rocks, the trees, the shading of lights and darks.  Don't think about all the details on the whole painting. Only focus on the details of one theme at a time. You can't simultaneously paint a tree and a river. They have to be done one at a time, although you can bounce back and forth working with the flow of the painting.  In my life, if I am in "cooking dinner theme" I can focus on making food and keeping my daughter occupied at the same time by the back and forth method of flow. But, I do not attempt to add any construction project at the same time, nor any phone calls. Too many details trying to be done at once = overwhelm. And, likely, a burnt dinner and cranky kid.

4.  Keep the BIG PICTURE in mind the whole time.  See your end result in your minds eye and on your paper,  Take the time to step back from your life painting and reflect.  Where am I needing to focus next? What "theme" is a little neglected or can use some fine-tuning?  How's it looking?  Pretty good, from my view!  In my life, I acknowledge how my house is improving, the progress I've made.  I acknowledge how my children are growing and learning.  I give thanks and am grateful.... and, maybe most importantly, I cut myself some slack when I recognize that a detail in my painting didn't turn out as well as I'd hoped... or was forgotten altogether!

5.  BREATHE.  Enjoy the moments you take creating the masterpiece of your life.  As far as we know for sure, it's the only one we get.  Make it beautiful and don't waste too much energy on what it "should" look like.  It will look best, uniquely yours!

Monday, December 15, 2014

Live HAPPY!!!

What would it be like to move through life feeling peaceful and calm, despite what is happening around you? Do you think that it's possible to be happy?  Is it possible to view life's challenges through the lens of learning and growth, rather than disgust, frustration and disappointment?

Well yes it is! Oftentimes, I'm accused of being a bit of a "Pollyanna" and a bit naive, but the truth is, I'm really neither. I'm pragmatic, a realist, and a bit cynical at times. I'm not very naive anymore either. And, I can be quite skeptical of anything too "woo-woo", unless the "woo-woo" can prove to me it's validity! And....

That said, I am hopeful.
Go play in the water!

I am happy.

I am living a life through the lens of possibilities.

And, I am creating the life that I choose, each and every day, feeling mostly peaceful and calm, despite the little storms that brew and shower over me at times.

If this is true for you, then it pleases me immensely! Know that YOU are part of the new paradigm that is taking root and growing in our world. It's been taking form in the few for a long time, and now it's spreading it's blissful powers of possibility into more and more lives, which perpetuates the GOOD!!! And, sets everything in motion for love to transcend. :)

If you are not someone who is finding it easy to live a happy, contented life, free from anxiety and depression, then you may be interested to know that you can be!  There is an awesome new therapy technique called MER (Mental and Emotional Release) created by Dr. Matthew James. I am certified in this technique that creates rapid and lasting changes by releasing the charge from negative emotions that hold you back from enjoying your life fully. 

This technique will help you to not be so reactive to the little storms in life, calming you and helping you to keep perspective in all aspects of living. Most people find no more then 6 sessions needed, as opposed to years and years, and thousands of dollars worth of psychotherapy or other traditional psychological methods.

I will challenge YOU to see how amazing your life can be!




Monday, July 7, 2014

How I Help Anxiety



                                           

“Our anxiety does not empty tomorrow of its sorrows, 
but only empties today of its strengths.” 
― Charles H. Spurgeon

How old were you when you first realized that your weren't enough?  Smart enough? Athletic enough? Beautiful enough? How did you learn this?

Likely, it was by a series of small incidences, trivial occurrences on their own, but collectively as iron clad as, well, Iron Man. And, all of these incidences have left their imprint, like a recorded message, and these imprinted limiting beliefs have shaped the person you have become.  It shows up in life by not taking risks, by not being promoted, by having anxiety, addictions, fears--the list goes on and on.

You know that feeling inside, the feeling that tells you that you aren't manifesting everything that you are capable of. That feeling that maybe you aren't worth it... aren't good enough... aren't smart enough...

“Man is not worried by real problems so much as by                                                                                                                his imagined anxieties about real problems"― Epictetus

The feeling of lack of confidence can be debilitating, if you let it.

Embrace that feeling now.  Thank it for making itself known to you. For showing you it's time for a change! That feeling is precisely what you need, call it a “motivating factor,” to catapult you in your journey of self-actualization and intrinsic discovery!  

It’s time for you to purge the anxiety and stress that is bogging you down and not letting you live your best life.  If all we have is right now, isn't it time to make the most of it?  Isn't it time to ask for the raise, ask the cute girl out, go to the party, leave your house, sleep through the night??  

Anxiety is debilitating.  You have the power to release it.

I am a certified life coach, NLP practitioner, Timeline Therapist and Clinical Hypnotherapist that specializes in anxiety, and anxiety related symptoms.  The common denominator of most issues in life, is anxiety, so no matter how your life is translating into symptoms, I will take you to the root of the issue and clear it there, releasing the parts that hold you back, helping you to live freely and fully.

Henry Ford once said, "Whether you think you CAN, or you think you CAN'T, you're RIGHT." 

Well, this is a good starting point; shifting your beliefs about WHO you are in this world, and what you CAN do. Releasing the old, limiting beliefs and negative emotions.  And then letting the new beliefs, the new confidence and self-love, show you what an amazing life you are capable of having!

I am deeply committed to helping you on your path to awakening and wholeness, which naturally brings forth great confidence!  I will help YOU clear the patterns from your past that are holding you hostage in your present, releasing a tidal wave of positive possibilities for your future! 

My calling is to help people see and express their unique beauty and gifts. You cannot fully manifest the best in you when anxiety has its grip on you, holding you back from fully experiencing all that life offers.  The journey is a yin and yang balance of pleasure and pain, learning and growing.  The destination is fulfillment and joy, a life worth celebrating. This is a process, sometimes fast, sometimes slow. I'm here with you, to go at your pace. To help you find your balance and personal rhythm. 

Contact me today for a free mini phone consultation to see how I can help you live better.